The year gone by has evaporated like a puff of smoke. When I look back, I see nothing. Therefore, I dust off the walls of my memory and search for what I have gained and what I have lost in the past year. Here I share with you few priceless things I’ve learned in 2014.
1. Friendship is an Investment
I like solitude and that makes me vulnerable; I lose friends. Last year I pondered over why I was not good a keeping friends, and I discovered that each friendship is an investment. You need to nurture it; you need to take initiative. I always waited for the other person to take initiative: to call me, send me new year greetings, to remember the important dates. But we all have busy lives, people move on. I have changed this habit now. If my friends are unable to reach me, I reach out to them. And trust me, it makes a huge difference.
2. People Won’t Change for You
The biggest mistake I’ve made in life is hoping others to change and be the way I want them to be; that is, ‘my way or you are wrong’. But this is not how things are. People most of the time don’t change for you. Best way out is to accept them as they are and stay happy.
3. Time is Precious
Office, home, office – time for self is so elusive. I suffocate when I don’t have time for self-expression; i.e., time to read, write, and being on my own. So I have stopped bothering about the hours, rather I take care of the minutes. Ten minutes of reading before I turn off the light to sleep, five minutes of writing while the MS Word file is getting attached to an email. Ten minutes repeated six times makes an hour. This is how I manage my time and I’m happy about it.
4. Creative Life is Best Life
What do you do if you don’t have any hobby? You feel bored and you kill time on petty things, things that don’t matter to you or anyone else, like gossiping. When I indulge myself in a creative work I feel happy and lively. Life then becomes interesting. So I ensure to do something creative everyday: to write something every day, to read at least one page every day. Small efforts in the end make a great difference.
5. Travel to Discover Yourself
We travel to discover ourselves. And I’ve observed that if I stay trapped at a single place for a long time, boredom sets in and the creativity leaps out of window. Last year I could not travel much but this year I have travelling high on my cards.
6. Life is NOT Roses all the Time
Life, the bitch, will always keep you on your toes. It is tough. Sometimes you feel frustrated to the last drop of your blood. But then this is how life is. And I’ve learnt that sometimes accepting things as they are is all that is required of you to be happy.
The following quote by Satish Kumar perfectly captures what I intend to say:
“I’m not interested in any outcome. I’m not interested in any achievement. I’m not trying to get somewhere. I’m not trying to succeed in my life. My life is not about success. My life is about self-realization and fulfillment. And if we seek fulfillment, then we have no stress. If we seek success, we will have stress.”
These were the things I wanted to share with you and I hope you found them useful. Or maybe you had similar experiences too.